How Do We Gain From Being Kind?
Kindness is one of those paradoxes – we become happier by making other people happier.
This sounds a little weird, right? Usually, when we think of being kind to someone, for example to a friend, we think how that friend can benefit from our actions. But we may also gain from being nice to others, too!
This article will show you the benefits of being kind and suggest some acts of kindness you can add to your daily life.
Benefits of being kind to others
There are many ways of being kind – you can donate, help, volunteer, or anything else that comes to your mind, but each one has benefits for you.
Acting kindly helps you relax and makes you feel good. It is shown that giving to others makes us happier . We’re even happier when we’re buying things for others rather than buying things for ourselves. However, buying things for others is just one way to be kind – you can smile, pay a compliment, and much more. For example, helping others elevates our mood, makes us happier and more optimistic. These feelings may last for days!
Fewer negative emotions.
In the same way that kindness elicits positive emotions, it reduces negative emotions . If you are kind, you’ll feel less stress – you’re less likely to feel anger, sadness, or fear.
Did you know that negative emotions are often harmful to health? Conversely, positive emotions are linked to better health. So kindness has its positive side effects on your health and well-being. It strengthens the immune system and enhances psychological and physical resilience. .
People are drawn to others who are kind and look for this attribute in their romantic relationships and friendships . If we think about this in a school context, it’s good to know that prosocial behavior boosts peer acceptance and popularity . It also reduces the likelihood of being bullied.
Kindness is contagious.
Did you know that observers of a kind act may benefit, too? While witnessing a kind act, the watcher experiences a warm feeling, called elevation, which motivates them to behave positively and helpfully . When you’re being nice to someone, you benefit not just the two of you; you help spread kindness. This way you influence the world for good!
How to be kind to others?
Kindness doesn’t have to be about money – you can give your time or things you don’t use anymore, help someone, call or text others, etc. Think about what you’re comfortable doing, what is okay for you. Every smile, every thoughtful act counts!
Yet, sometimes it’s hard to start. It helps if you think about small kind acts and write down ideas that cross your mind. Think what could you do today, tomorrow, or on some special day. That way, you’ll more likely spot opportunities when they come up. You could also set out with the intention to perform a kind of act, like, “I’m not coming home until I’ve done something nice for someone else.” Intentional acts set the habit to see other opportunities in the future. Also, you can ask your friends or family members to join you. This way you can exchange ideas, do some things together, and support each other.
Here are some ideas to get you started:
Hold a door open at a store for someone.
Share your lunch with a friend who forgot theirs.
Offer to help your younger siblings with their homework.
Tell your parents how much you love them.
Do a chore you usually don’t do.
Let somebody know you appreciate their help. Show appreciation of others in general.
Give an authentic compliment.
Say please, thank you, and sorry and really mean it.
Volunteer your time for a charity.
Be kind to yourself
Authentic kindness matters. Think about what you appreciate in others. Of course, don’t feel like you need to do more than you can do. Be kind to yourself too!
Being kind to yourself is equally important as being kind to others, sometimes even more so. However, experience suggests people are often much harsher and unkind toward themselves than they would ever be to others they cared about, or even to strangers . But we all should be treated with kindness and caring and you need to treat yourself with the same compassion you extend to everyone else.
So, don’t forget – build a relationship with yourself, befriend yourself. Show kindness and understanding to yourself rather than harsh judgment and self-criticism, especially in instances of pain or failure.
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